I was reading a weekly email newsletter from someone I recently met, love, and follow, Dr. Danielle Clark. Danielle has been a recent guest on my podcast, The Psychic Wives, so you should definitely check out that episode when it’s posted (https://drdanielleclark.com/). In it she was talking about how important it is to no longer do things that aren’t serving you or aren’t good for you, and equally as important to let go of people in your lives who aren’t good for you. (I know, I know, that last one can be rough…but very freeing.) And all of that made me think about letting go of having to explain ourselves too.
I’ve alluded to my feelings about social media before, but I’ll say it here straight out… I think it’s become really, really bad for us. Especially since say spring of last year. As I’m sure you’ve all seen it. A ton of fighting, hating, and just plain bullying going on. Because of that, I’ve taken a bit of a step back and basically only use it for business purposes now and to share with clients (like posting this blog). Do I miss exchanging funny memes and keeping in touch with friends? For sure. But for now, this thing called social media is no longer serving me and makes me feel yucky and just isn’t good for me. And part of the reason it isn’t good for me is because I often found myself being attacked for how I think or feel about a particular subject. I found folks questioning my character because my thoughts and beliefs weren’t in alignment with theirs. And I found myself having to defend myself for my beliefs or explain myself. And I thought, ‘Why the hell can they say what they believe, but I can’t?!’
BUT then, I realized, that all of this craziness that has been going on actually turned out to be a very good thing for me in that it made me think, realize, and understand some things. Every single one of us is on our own journey. Every single one of us is where we are. And every single one of us has to respect where someone else is. (And if someone in your life can’t do that, then reread the first paragraph of this blog post…) If someone is jumping on me because I don’t believe what they believe, that’s okay. Maybe they’re afraid. Maybe something in their life that I know nothing about has made them react in a certain way. That’s where they are. Just like I don’t have to explain myself to them, they don’t have to explain themselves to me. The way that I see it, as long as I’m doing my best to be a good person, to love, to respect, to have compassion for others….it’s all okay.
So let’s all do that. Just be a good person. Be true to you. Live your life with love. Accept others where they are. If you do that?
You don’t need to explain a thing.