Take the high road and let it go.

I had a great conversation yesterday with two dear friends. (Okay, it was a text conversation between the three of us, but that still counts.) I had reached out to both of them to help me find clarity around an issue. A few people in my life had tried to make me feel bad about something. They saw that I was a bit down about something and instead of trying to make me feel better, or just leaving it alone, they chose to ‘poke’ at me about it. It really upset me. As humans, when something like that happens, we tend to take it personally (breaking don Miguel Ruiz’s second agreement, “Today, I will not take anything personally.”) But that’s what I did.
Then I started to think about it. So here I was feeling a bit down and these people chose to try to make me feel even worse. Why should I feel bad? Why should I let them ‘win’? And I really wanted to lash out at them in return. Instead I turned it around. Yes, for some reason, some people feel the need to kick someone when they’re down. But what I’ve come to understand is that it really has nothing to do with the person being kicked, and everything to do with the person doing the kicking.
There’s a quote or meme out there that comes around every now and again and it says something to the effect of, ‘You have no idea what’s going on in someone else’s life,’ and how you should hold them in compassion instead of anger or retaliation. And it’s true. I have no idea what’s going on in these folks’ life. Maybe they’re totally pissed about their own thing. Maybe they’re in an unhappy relationship. Maybe they feel stifled in their own speech. Maybe they hate their job. My point is, maybe, just maybe, the only way for them to feel good is for someone else to feel bad. Is it right? Not in my opinion, but maybe it’s really all they’ve got. So, should we give the people in our lives that treat us badly a free pass? I say yes. Within reason. (After all, if this is someone’s usual MO then you really need to ask yourself why they’re in your life in the first place.) But, if it’s not, why not take the high road and
Let it go.
 Why not hold them in that place of love, appreciation, and compassion. Why not wish them well in their journey to find their own happiness. After all, love, appreciation, and compassion are way higher on the Emotional Guidance scale than pokiness….
(And a big thank you Julie and Rachel. So glad you’re in my tribe…)
 
In Munay…
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